Taking Care Of Yourself

Warning: The first two paragraphs are a bummer, but it gets better.

There was a time when day after day I spent my time lounging on my parent’s couch covered with a blanket watching the same channel on TV day after day. I may have worn the same clothes even if they were jeans and a t-shirt for weeks. My hair and my teeth were never brushed. Bathing was too much of a chore, and there was no motivation for anything inside of the empty shell I had become. I was a fixture that gathered dust. I was only breathing.

A diagnosis of treatment Major Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and a bunch of other things that other doctors believed fit were treated with drugs, ECT’s and arts and crafts. Hospital stays included taking away my C-pap machine, my music, my shoelaces, delousing and cavity searches. I was isolated in secure rooms with cameras and on a ward with others who had severe mental disorders that terrified me.

Depression can bring so much heartbreak, embarrassment, and indignity, but nothing done to you or said about you can keep you from working toward recovery. You are reading this blog, so I believe in you. Believe in yourself. I have slipped and fallen many times and sought out the comfy couch, but I regained the resolve to put my mind and energy toward being the best that I can be one step at a time.

There are so many tools on the self-help shelf of the bookstore. You can buy one like I have done dozens of times. I may have more unread self-help books than any of the major bookstores. You need a plan. First – toss away those arts and crafts projects from the hospital stays (I’m just keeping one.) Second – no matter where you are in recovery take time to see where you can make changes to take care of yourself. I started with a bath and clean clothes. You may need a spa treatment. We start from where we are. I wish you a plan for success and progress along the way. Don’t be discouraged. Your goal is in place.  Now the plan needs a step three. What is the next step you can make to take care of yourself?

Published by: Beverly Hughes

My journey through depression and anxiety has been a long fought battle. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling, but that only helped me to understand clinical language. I needed help and have learned so much about what I could do to help myself.

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5 thoughts on “Taking Care Of Yourself”

  1. Thank you for this! I have a mood disorder (bipolar, they aren’t sure which type) and in depressive phases I’m the same way except instead of the couch it’s my bed. I’m working hard on taking better care of myself, part of that is why I’m on this site. I used to cope by writing and blogging and stopped for a long time. It’s nice to come back and see so many people I can relate to. Thanks again for writing this

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    1. Not many people would understand that you haven’t taken a shower or done anything for yourself in weeks, but that’s the way it is. When I’m feeling a bit better, I clean up, put lotion on my skin, do the best I can to make my hair look good and put on clean clothes. If I have the energy, I will make the bed. I tune in to how much better that effort made me feel better. It motivates me to do it more often, sometimes. The good days are the time to write down what else you can do to feel better. I try to schedule a trip to the bookstore or to the art supply store. The pictures on my blog are my drawings and photography. I wish you well in the pursuit of happiness. I’ve seen too many people give up. You can do it. None of this is easy, but count your positives (even little ones) as a victory. Keep in touch with me. I am here to motivate and share. There is no judgment. I understand and care. 🙂

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      1. It’s so nice to hear from someone who sincerely understands. Today is one of my better days… I have the energy to be and write and clean myself up. It’s not easy but not impossible, I’ll keep working at it and engage with people like you more often! I too, wish you the best in your journey and thank you for having the strength to encourage others dealing with this 🙂

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