Conversation With Tangents

“And your point is?” A friend of mine quite often made this irritating remark when I was in a conversation with her or her friends. Even though the comment was somewhat hurtful it was helpful.

Poppy, the little dog in the picture, reminds me of my tendency to stray from a point in a conversation by taking tangents to explain something, add an insight, make a sarcastic remark, and any number of trails from my point. I often forget what point I am trying to make. I imagine Poppy is speaking to be then out of the blue says, “look there is a rabbit.” I am quite introverted and rarely get the opportunity to join in a conversation, so I have many comments that I missed sharing in conversation. I was also strictly trained as a child to never interrupt. This description looks like ADD. I never had that problem when I was functioning well.

I am reluctant to join in conversations now. I worry that people look at me and wonder what I am tripping on (like I am high on drugs.) My psychiatrist said it was from a poor concentration. I also have difficulties staying still long enough to watch a TV program or a movie. There are very few movies I have ever seen, and the ones that I have seen were partly missed. When I read (I love reading) my thoughts veer from the book. The oddest thing is that I can multi-task and get two things done without missing anything. I am often using my computer for many things, and if the TV is on, I can keep up with the entire plot and dialog without looking at it. If someone asks, “what did he say?” I can quote the dialog even though I am researching an article on the computer. I can read a book with the TV on and miss nothing of either.

The doctor thinks it is a lack of concentration and I seem stupid in a conversation yet give me two things to do at once and there is no concentration problem. If anyone has a clue about this, PLEASE let me know. It has stumpped the professionals I consult and is creepy weird!

Published by: Beverly Hughes

My journey through depression and anxiety has been a long fought battle. I have a Masters Degree in Counseling, but that only helped me to understand clinical language. I needed help and have learned so much about what I could do to help myself.


4 thoughts on “Conversation With Tangents”

  1. Nah, you’re normal. Well… More like super normal. There’s a guy I read who has an autistic son he writes about; about his son’s observations and explanations.

    He recently talked about some focus exercises they’re trying: bouncing a ball while counting was one.

    I’m not suggesting you’re autistic, just that you could look up focus exercises. Myself, I love multi-tasking. I often have music or a show running while doing a mundane task.

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