Kids are very resilient. The germs that spread around in school will make them sick, but those germs will put their parents in the bed while the child is playing with their toys. Children see and hear everything that goes on at home. Parents live their lives as an example to their children because that is what they see of how Moms and Dads treat each other and know their words and reactions. They certainly know how they are treated and what is expected of them.
I’ve never seen true healthy relationships. The dysfunction in families mold the kids notably in the way they relate to others. We are often unaware that little ones under our feet are soaking up the blueprint of their lives when they are very young and impressionable. The child’s personality factors into their views, too. Highly sensitive children may develop impaired emotional reactions to stressors in themselves, romantic relationships, in the workplace, and everyday situations encountered prevalent into adulthood.
Parents pass along genes to their children that cause them difficulties as well as tangled ways of thinking and behaving. Both cause trauma to their offspring. It isn’t a fault of the parents it is the result of situations of which we are unaware.
“As with any dysfunctional family, it may take an outsider to get a clear picture of the situation.”— Chris Mooney
As an adult, our mental health shows the signs of trauma, feels the distress of triggers from the past and may stimulate trust issues. One of my dearest family members has become hypercautious in placing her trust. The people in which she developed romantic relationships were narcissistic. She is a loving empath who has been hurt too many times. Both of her parents had mental health issues and divorced when the children were very young. The adult children have different coping skills. They are strongly dependant on each other. Love can hurt for a lifetime.